Let’s Clarify Your Values
This is one of the exercises from my up coming book “You’re life Coach doesn’t want you to have this” (Success Tools was my first title choice, let me know which one you like better) it’s tools and exercises that can help you improve your life.
The decisions we make in life are mostly guided by our values. Your top five values are the major reasons you are where you are in life. For people who value traveling and adventure, you’re most likely not in your hometown as you read this. People who value financial security probably have a good amount of savings right now. Those who value contribution are most likely volunteering or donating more than most people.
There’s a ton of resources for the different types of values. They may be moral, spiritual, cultural, ethical, what you value about the world or other people. I can give you a list of five hundred words to choose from, and chances are, you’ll choose values you want, not values you have right now.
The only way for you to know the values you’re living by is by taking a look at your results and your decision-making process for minor and major decisions. Let’s say you just got your paycheck. Your friends invited you on a weekend trip and you know it’s going to cost your whole paycheck. You did have plans for the weekend, which was just to stay home, have a simple quite weekend learning web design.
At this point, you’re in a dilemma. You have to choose to have fun with your friends and spend money or stay home, saving money while learning a skill that can make money eventually. If you value quality time, and fear possibly losing friends, you might choose to go with your friends for the weekend, without question. If you value saving and self-improvement and you’d rather learn than party, you might choose to stay at home.
Let’s say one person chose to go with their friends, spending their whole paycheck every weekend. The other person chose to stay at home every weekend. By the end of the year, which person would have more money? Which person would have more fun partying? Both of them will have the same level of happiness because they stayed true to their values. The party person will have less money but more friends. The learn-and-make-money people will have fewer friends but more money.
When you have good quality values, you’ll make good quality choices in life. If you value leisure time like watching Netflix and YouTube videos for your entertainment, you’ll be entertained, but since you’re not giving value to the world, don’t expect much from the world if this is all you’re doing, unless it’s part of your work.
Let’s go from here.
What values might be holding you back from being productive?
Fun, I value having fun by partying and drinking every weekend.
Lust, you value lusting, using the internet.
Being right, you value being right at the expense of others.
Brainstorm all the values you want to live by and write why it’s important for you to live by those values. Then choose your top five in order of importance.
- Health – It’s important for me because without health we can’t fully enjoy life
- Money –
- Relationships –
- Organization –
- Being of Service –
- Changing the World –
- Being a Role Model –
- Charity –
- Laughter –
- Happiness –
- Kindness –
- Love –
- Success –
- Learning –
Example of top 5 values:
Why: I put being of service as my value because it has multiple meanings. If I’m always of service to God, this means I do good deeds and think good thoughts and prayers. I’m of service to my family and loved ones, I’m being a good person to them and help them grow. I am of service to the community and the world, with the work that I do, jobs I provide as a leader and business owner, and the people who’re lives change, with my work I am of service to them.
I value my health by always making sure I eat healthy, exercise, rest well, and think healthy thoughts, not allowing my thoughts to make me sick. Health is important to me because, without it, I can’t help or serve people. I value my health because I want to live long enough to see my children grow and have grandchildren and great-grandchildren.
List Down Your Top 5 Values and Why