Fear of failure creates what you mostly fear. In order to break this cycle we need to look at it more lightly. All great people in history experienced failures, from inventors, athletes, and business people. They look at failure as a friend, or as a joke. Some even look at it as just taking another step. As Michael Jordan put it “I’ve missed more than nine thousand shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
The old saying goes, that the only people who really fail are the ones who don’t try. Have you been trying lately?
In order to achieve anything worth while we need to take baby steps, and not criticize ourselves. If babies were as self critical as adults, they would never learn to walk. Good thing they don’t criticize themselves and keep practicing until they’re able to stand up on two feet and take those steps.
When we pick up a new skill, we need to take these baby steps. Most people usually try something, fail, and look for something else to try. Usually failing again, and walk away again. Some look at failure as a reason to stop trying. Those who are able to master something, keep practicing, failing, and learn from every failure until they master their craft.
When you’re learning a new craft, you need to be your own best friend. Be your own coach, never your worse critic. Be kind and patient, like how you would be when you’re helping a child learn how to walk.
Most people give up because they criticize themselves. This is an unnecessary cycle.
It’s not ok for us to call a loved one stupid, or say they should give up, or point out and criticize them for their mistakes. Ignoring their effort to become better. So why do we do this to ourselves? Let’s treat ourselves like our own child, self-love and self-motivation, while trying to learn new skills. As Richard Bach put it “What a caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly”.